Nurturing

Does your significant other need reinforcement? Tell her you love her and give her a tight hug, and vice versa.

Yeah, right... wish it was that easy!

There are Nurturers lurking out there. And if you find a good one, you're a lucky dog, because there aren't enough to go around. These people have a gift from God... they ARE a gift from God. Their words do to your mind about what a good deep massage does to your body. Notice that there is correlation between nurturing and a positive attitude, a friendly smile, and a hug at just the right time. It would make sense to understand them and perhaps borrow their gift... to nurture others. But it also might be a bad mistake, since it might drive you into a few co-dependencies, which will require you to go to a Co-Dependents Anon group, seriously.



Back in the beginning, it was obvious that a new dependent baby needs nurturing, but sometime in its life it also needs to be kicked out of the nest to fly on its own. [An aside: I'm a grampa!]



Questions: What happens in between? What happens afterwards? How do you nurture and yet not become a co-dependent? And the biggest question of all is how does the nurturer get nurturing in time of need (since we're all human and even Superman falls to kryptonite).

The obvious answer to the latter is that the nurturer needs another nurturer. Answers to the former are not as simple, but are based upon the fact that I can't do it all for everybody.

The fact that a nurturer needs another nurturer should give us a clue. Life is too short to waste, so love the people that treat you right and detach from the ones that drain you. Thus, keep your thinking positive, hang around the right people and be ready with a hug.

Some people matter and always will. Some never did and never will.

Yeah, it CAN be that easy!

- © 2008 by Willy