Trust

"Trust is earned in drops but lost in buckets." - Anon.

I knew her for 10 years and dated for a year before we married. An hour afterwards, she tells me: "Now that I've hooked you, let me tell you the way it's really going to be."

Horror!

You think I have trust issues? Yes, and that was 27 years ago, and the marriage immediately crumbled. Of course, I have trouble trusting people... who doesn't?

Horror stories abound on a range of issues, primarily financial... but it's all about trusting people... with getting work done and with growing our retirement fund... or not.

At my building, top management went to the same church. Because they knew and trusted each other, there was preferential treatment, of course. If you need to get something done, you get someone that you know (trust) will do it.

Specific trust.

Life is all about specific trusted relationships... knowing who can be trusted with what. Specialists, if you will. We shop for a doctor who will refer us to other specialists but we don't ask him about career advice. We also trust mother with dinner but not with love advice.

I enjoy my weightlifting workouts with my buddy Dallas but don't trust him about cardio because he gets winded jogging a hundred yards. I enjoy bicycling with buddy Ray but not weightlifting because he can't. I enjoy others because I trust them... in some way.

Putting trust in another can either be risky and awful, or a wonderful trusted relationship.


- text copyright 2014 by Willy