Conflicts

You know this: Many relationships are based on a struggle that reflect the conflict between facing the painful realities of insincerity and desperately wanting to keep the hope alive of what the relationship could have been. It's tough to reconcile the fairy tale with the cold tactics of unfaithfulness. At this stage the relationship is out of control and begging or other one-sided displays of emotion really means nothing to the other except to indicate that it is they, not us, who are in control, and there really is no hope to be treated well.

Well, life is no fairy tale. When is it over? In hindsight, insincerity and infidelity should always define the end of a relationship. Giving the benefit of the doubt does not extend forever. We are what we are, and don't change our spots. Listen for the hate tones, open your eyes to the cruelty and trust outside observers. Took me too long, but I finally quit. Best way to fix it? Don't get into one to begin with. That's been my resolution... and my prayer.

- © 2009 by Willy